Bullying Help Sheet
(Adapted from E.R.A.S.E. documentation, 2012)
Iâ€™ve witnessed bullying â€“ what can I do?
It is important to not fight a bully. Bystanders like yourself who have witnessed an incident of bullying or harassment need to support the victim by reporting what you saw to a parent, teacher or someone you trust. It is unsettling to experience this and can be scary. Bystanders have the power to stop bullying behavior.
Some tips to help bystanders:
- Tell an adult you trust â€“ your parent, teacher, coach, principal, etc.. Try to remember the details â€“ who was involved, what happened, when and where. You may not know it but your school can support you in different ways.
- Help the student being bullied by supporting them and helping them to report the incident.
- Donâ€™t be an audience â€“ bullies look for attention, and by standing around watching without intervening you can actually encourage them to carry on.
- Donâ€™t visit websites that are meant to target and hurt other students, and donâ€™t forward cruel emails, texts, messages, photos, etc. that you may receive from a bully or other students.
- Donâ€™t delete messages, photos, texts or emails â€“ show a parent, teacher or trusted adult and keep them, they may be used as evidence when you report the incident.
- Be assertive, but not aggressive. Do not get physical or make threats. Insults and fighting could only make the situation worse.
- With others, and only if you feel safe doing so, make it known to the bully that what he/she is doing is not okay.
Iâ€™m being bullied â€“ what can I do?
First of all, you are doing the right thing by seeking more information. Bullying is a serious issue, and should be dealt with quickly. Remember that no one deserves to be bullied or harassed by anyone. You might be feeling scared, sad or even angry about what is happening to you, and those feelings are all okay. Just remember that it is not your fault.
Here are some things you should do, if youâ€™re being bullied:
- Write down what happened. Record the date, time, and as many details as you can about the situation. Ask yourself these questions:
- Who was there? Make a special note of the bully, any other participants, and any witnesses that were around.
- What did they say to you?
- Did they physically hurt you?
- How did it make you feel?
- Where and when did it take place?
- What did you do / how did you respond?
- Tell your parents or another trusted adult (like your favorite teacher or coach) what happened, as soon as possible. They can support you. If you donâ€™t get the support you need from them, tell someone else. You may not know it but your school may have some help or supports that could assist you.
- Do NOT try to fight the bully or intervene in violent or physical situations â€“ get help from an adult.
If you are uncertain of what else you can do and you are feeling threatened, unsafe or having thoughts of hurting yourself you can call or contact the following:
- Call 911
- Youth Against Violence Line
Counsellors are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Confidential, anonymous and free. Visit the website for more teen dating information.
- Helpline for Children (in British Columbia)
310-1234 (no area code required).
If you are a victim of family abuse, or know someone who is, you can connect with a social worker and report it. This line is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
- Domestic Violence Help Line